The Power of the Pity Party

Last night, for the first time, I hosted a segment to put an electric JOLT into the listeners. Normally, I interview guests and provide the most powerful, uplifting, motivating messages I can. This segment though, I wanted to talk about the POWER in the Pity Party. Too often, I meet people that are empowered through self pity. The problem is when you throw a pity party, you are the only guest. Then you have a choice: Wallow in the mess or get out.

What is it about self-pity that we seem to gain strength from? Frustration? Lack? Worry? Fear? What is it? I took 30 minutes to talk about why we really don't need much of what we enjoy today in society. Why do we have color television sets? Cordless telephones? Life Coaches? Microwaves? YMCA's? Why in the world do single parents need Single Parent Assistance, Resources & Knowledge, Inc. What is the point?

You do have a right to be upset, frustrated, hurt and angry. Don't stay in the "I feel sorry for myself state" too long though. Please, if you are feeling alone, frustrated, sad or confused, download the podcast below and concentrate on taking back control of YOUR life. You matter, you're special, you're amazing.

Pay attention in life to others and re-evaluate your life and the choices you have made.

1. Identify your problems
2. Seek out a solution
3. Change your environment



Ask yourself this: If what you're doing is not solving the problem that you are in, what else can you do to solve your problem? What can you change? What can you do differently? There are 55 days left in this year. Make the changes necessary in 2009 to take control of 2010. You really can live your BEST life now. Believe it!

Are you a Cheerleader or Participant?

Too often in life, we are on the sidelines cheering everyone else on and we forget that we are active participants too. There is no choice to participate in life. You're in whether you want to be or not. No in betweens! So, look at the video below (I watched about 2 minutes) and decide for yourself what's holding you back from being an active participant. Note: We should all be cheerleaders in life!

Knock FEAR out!

Stop letting FEAR hold you back from fulfilling your life desires! Allow your dreams to come alive, switch gears and use every opportunity that you have available to live your best life now.

What does FEAR do?

Steal time

Kill dreams

Delay our goals

Deflate success

Devalue our worth

Prevent promotion

Encourage excuses

Rob us of our future

Make us believe what isn't true

Stop us from achieving our dreams

Tell us not to charge for our services

Give us permission to remain average

Create anger, depression and frustration

Tell us to remain in low paying jobs because we like the people

and the list goes on!

Has FEAR stopped you? Join today and start taking action toward your life goals! This is a quick video about FEAR. Email all questions to info@sparkwisdom.com

Knock FEAR out!

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world." Marianne Williamson
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Even Jay-Z says Keep up, Go ahead or Get Left Behind

I read a blog post this morning from a blog I recently started following Minority Fortune and their post this morning was Jay Z VS Beanie Sigel and Streets VS Business. The post reflected on the street code and the mere fact that Beanie Sigel had every opportunity at success in front of him and still chose the "street life."

I must admit that I'm not a follower of rap or Jay-Z although I have many friends that are. Yet, I am a follower of those that have achieved financial independence and continue to achieve success in their lives. I define success as "the ability to live my life the way I want, doing what I most enjoy, surrounded by people I admire and respect." I have a lot of respect for Jay-Z doing what most other find difficult to do which is to leave others behind. No explanation is necessary.

Personally, I have done this with many friends. I'm not sure if they even realize it or not, yet I have. This is life and life is based on the choices we make now and the company we keep. Each blog post, my aim is to motivate, encourage and inspire you so that you can walk away empowered to achieve your own success in life. Jay-Z may not have actually said "Keep up, Go ahead or Get Left Behind" using actual words, yet he did say it using his actions. He left the old behind and continued on with the new. Question for you: Who do you need to leave behind?